What a Postpartum Doula Does Not Do: Understanding the Boundaries of Postpartum Support

We’re Not Medical Professionals

Postpartum doulas provide amazing emotional and practical support, but we’re not medical providers. That means:

– We can’t give medical advice or diagnoses
– We don’t prescribe medications
– We’re not a substitute for your doctor or midwife
– We don’t make medical decisions for you or your baby

We do keep an eye out for things that might need medical attention and will always encourage you to check in with your provider if something doesn’t seem right.

We’re Not House Cleaners

We help keep your space feeling calm and manageable, but deep cleaning isn’t in our job description. That means:

– We don’t do heavy-duty cleaning (think scrubbing floors or cleaning bathrooms)
– We won’t handle laundry for the whole household – but we might wash and fold a load of baby clothes
– We don’t reorganize your kitchen or tackle big home projects

What we do is tidy up, wash bottles, prep simple meals, and help create a cozy, functional space for you and your baby.

We’re Not Nannies or Babysitters

While we help with newborn care – and may absolutely take over so you can rest – our focus is really on you – supporting and guiding you as you find your rhythm. That means:

– We work alongside you rather than taking over
– We’re here to help you learn, not just do things for you
– We’re focused on the whole family’s adjustment, not just the baby

Our goal is to build your confidence, not to replace you.

We Don’t Offer Full-Time Sibling Care

We love helping older siblings adjust and can offer ideas for including them in baby care, but:

– We’re not hired to babysit or provide full-time childcare for older kids
– Our attention is centered around the postpartum parent and new baby

If you need dedicated childcare for older siblings, it’s a good idea to line up a babysitter or family help during those early days.

We’re Not On-Call 24/7

Postpartum doulas work during specific, agreed-upon hours:

– We’re not available outside of those times unless arranged in advance
– We don’t provide emergency care
– We keep clear boundaries around our availability so we can show up well-rested and ready to support you

For anything urgent outside of scheduled hours, your doctor or healthcare provider is your best resource.

We Don’t Bring Judgment

This one’s so important. A postpartum doula offers support without judgment:

– We meet you where you are, supporting your unique parenting style
– We’re here to support your choices, not tell you what to do
– We offer evidence-based info, not personal opinions
– We’re your sounding board and your cheerleader, not your critic

Every family is different, and we’re here to help you feel confident and supported, not pressured or second-guessed.

At Newby Nurturing, we offer compassionate, non-judgmental support to help you feel more confident as you care for your baby. Whether you’re needing overnight care, guidance with feeding, or simply someone to walk beside you during the early weeks, we’re here to help. Reach out any time to learn more about how we can support your family.

Celebrating World Doula Week: A Journey of Serving and Supporting Mothers

My love for babies and mothers wasn’t just a passing phase. Shortly after becoming a mother myself, I discovered the beautiful Greek definition of a doula: "a woman who serves." I felt called to this role and knew I had found my dream job.

For the past decade, I’ve had the incredible privilege of serving as a postpartum doula. Each day brings the joy of supporting mothers through their transformative journey into motherhood and breastfeeding. It’s more than a job—it’s a sacred mission of care, compassion, and community.

Where Do We Serve?

Doulas are everywhere-in hospitals, birthing centers, homes, and communities. We support mothers through pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period, providing physical, emotional, and informational support during one of life’s most profound experiences.

Doula Mentoring: Empowering Aspiring and New Doulas

Are you passionate about supporting mothers and interested in becoming a doula? I offer personalized mentoring services to guide aspiring and new doulas. Whether you’re looking to start your journey or enhance your skills, I’m here to support you every step of the way.

Let's Connect

Interested in doula support or mentoring? Click here to learn more about my doula mentoring services.

Looking for a postpartum doula? We proudly serve the Houston and San Antonio, TX, areas. Book a free consultation to learn how we can support your journey.

Happy World Doula Week to all the incredible doulas who pour their hearts into serving mothers!

How Long Should I Book a Postpartum Doula?

My Recommendation

I always suggest starting with at least three consecutive days of support. This gives you a real chance to rest and experience the full benefits of having a doula, rather than just getting through a single night. After three days of solid sleep and hands-on help, most parents notice a big shift in their energy levels, emotional well-being, and confidence in caring for their baby.

How Much Support Do You Need?

Every family is different, but here’s a helpful breakdown:

• First-time parents: 2–12 weeks

• Parents with older kids: 1–8 weeks

• Recovering from a C-section: 3–8 weeks

• Parents of multiples: 4–12 weeks

What a Schedule Might Look Like

Many families start with more frequent support in the first few weeks (3–5 nights per week) and gradually taper down as they get more comfortable (1–2 nights per week).

The Benefits of Ongoing Support

Some families choose to extend support for the first four months, which can help with:

• Establishing healthy sleep habits

• Creating consistent feeding routines

• Building parental confidence

• Easing the transition for the whole family

By the time your baby is around four months old, you’ll likely feel much more settled into your new normal.

Postpartum support isn’t just about getting through the night—it’s an investment in your well-being. The right amount of care can make the difference between simply surviving those early months and truly thriving as a new parent.

Ready to Experience the Benefits of Postpartum Support?

We proudly serve growing families throughout the Houston, San Antonio, and New Braunfels areas with our team of postpartum professionals. Our doulas provide holistic support to your journey into motherhood, ensuring both you and your baby receive the care you need during this transformative time.

Click here to schedule a free consultation and discover how our post
partum services can enhance your fourth trimester experience!

A Reassuring Presence in the Room: The Benefits of a Postpartum Doula

A Sense of Calm in the Unknown

A postpartum doula is more than just a helper - they’re a reassuring presence in the room. Their experienced, compassionate support helps reduce anxiety and brings a sense of calm during those unpredictable moments. When you're feeling overwhelmed, knowing that someone is there to listen, answer your questions, and validate your feelings can make all the difference.

Building Confidence and Trust

In the midst of uncertainty, it’s common for new moms to question their instincts. A doula provides gentle guidance on baby care techniques - from soothing a fussy baby to helping you find the right breastfeeding position - empowering you to trust your maternal intuition. This supportive coaching not only eases the learning curve but also builds lasting confidence in your parenting abilities.

Nurturing Emotional Wellbeing

The postpartum period is a time of significant emotional and physical change. A doula’s caring presence can help ease feelings of isolation and vulnerability by offering empathetic, evidence-based support. Their ability to recognize early signs of postpartum mood disorders and connect you with the right resources is a vital aspect of nurturing your mental health during this transformative phase.

Supporting the Whole Family

A postpartum doula doesn’t just focus on the new mom - they’re there to support the entire family. By guiding partners in bonding with the baby and helping older siblings adjust to their new role, a doula fosters a harmonious family environment where everyone feels cared for and included.

A Lasting Impact

Ultimately, the reassurance and support of a postpartum doula go beyond just easing the immediate challenges of early parenthood. Their steady presence lays the foundation for a more confident, relaxed, and connected family life. As the late anthropologist Dana Raphael once noted, the very act of being there is what makes all the difference.

Embracing the help of a postpartum doula is an investment in both your well-being and your journey as a new mother - a gentle reminder that you’re not alone in this beautiful, challenging transition.

If you’re looking for experienced, compassionate support in Houston or the San Antonio–New Braunfels area, our dedicated team of postpartum doulas is here for you. Let our caring professionals help you feel more confident, supported, and cared for in your postpartum journey. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help!

How Long Should I Breastfeed? Evidence-Based Advice & Your Breastfeeding Goals

What the Experts Recommend

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) advises mothers to breastfeed for at least 12 months or longer if both mother and baby wish to continue. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the World Health Organization (WHO) recommend breastfeeding for up to two years or beyond. These guidelines highlight the continued benefits breast milk provides, even as your baby grows into toddlerhood.

Your Choice, Your Journey

Ultimately, how long you breastfeed is a deeply personal decision. As long as both you and your baby are happy and thriving, there is no "right" or "wrong" duration. Some mothers breastfeed for a few weeks or months, while others continue for several years.

Remember: every drop of breast milk is liquid gold for your baby! Whether you breastfeed for days, weeks, months, or years, you're giving your little one an amazing gift.

The Power of Breast Milk

Breast milk is nothing short of remarkable– it's packed with essential nutrients, antibodies, and live cells that support your baby's developing immune system. Would you believe that just one teaspoon of breast milk contains over three million germ-fighting cells? This living substance helps protect your baby from infections and illnesses while promoting optimal development in ways that cannot be replicated.

Benefits That Last a Lifetime

In my years supporting breastfeeding mothers, I've witnessed how special the breastfeeding relationship truly is. The list of benefits is evergrowing:

For Your Baby:

• Stronger immunity – fewer ear infections, respiratory illnesses, and digestive issues
• Enhanced brain development through specialized fatty acids found only in breast milk
• Reduced risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome)
• Lower likelihood of developing childhood obesity, diabetes, asthma, and allergies
• Custom-made nutrition that adjusts to your baby's changing needs

For You:

• Faster postpartum recovery as breastfeeding helps your uterus contract
• Natural calorie burn that can support postpartum weight management
• Decreased risk of breast and ovarian cancer
• Powerful bonding experience through the release of oxytocin (the "love hormone")
• Convenience and cost savings – can save you up to $3,000 in formula costs!

Navigating Challenges

The breastfeeding journey isn't always peaches and rainbows. Many mothers face challenges like painful latching, milk supply concerns, or returning to work. If you encounter obstacles, remember that support is available through lactation consultants, breastfeeding support groups, and healthcare providers. Sometimes a small adjustment can make all the difference.

Remember, Mama

Your breastfeeding journey is just that – yours. Whether you breastfeed for three days, three months, or three years, what matters most is that you're making informed choices that work for you and your baby. Trust your instincts, seek support when needed, and be gentle with yourself along the way.

Remember this truth: you are enough, and you're doing an amazing job! 💙

Need personalized support with breastfeeding? Don't hesitate to reach out – I'm here to help you navigate this beautiful, challenging, rewarding journey. If you'd like my free guide for writing out your breastfeeding goals, click here.

The Breastfeeding Teammate: A Dad's Guide to Supporting Mom and Bonding with Baby

Let's explore some meaningful ways dads can become essential partners in the breastfeeding experience.

Get Educated (Without Being Told To)

Nothing makes a nursing mom feel more supported than a partner who takes initiative to understand breastfeeding! Taking a class together before baby arrives shows you're in this as a team. Even if baby is already here, watching a few YouTube videos or reading articles about common challenges can transform a dad into a breastfeeding ally when he suggests, "Maybe try the football hold?" during a difficult latch.

Master the Art of Silent Support

There's something magical about a partner who can deliver a fresh water bottle, place a snack within reach, and adjust the nursing pillow – all without being asked and sometimes without saying a word. This kind of intuitive support during those long feeding sessions is worth its weight in gold!

Setting up a "nursing station" for nighttime feeds with everything mom might need – phone charger, remote, burp cloths, and a water bottle – demonstrates thoughtful care that makes breastfeeding sessions more comfortable.

Take Charge of Diaper Duty

Nothing says "I've got your back" like a partner who automatically handles the diaper change before or after a feeding. This simple act gives mom a chance to use the bathroom, stretch, or just breathe for a minute between feeds.

Plus, diaper time is prime dad-baby bonding time – those moments of eye contact, silly faces, and baby giggles create a special connection that's all their own.

Discover Your Baby-Soothing Superpower

Every dad develops their own unique baby-calming technique. It might be a specific swaying-bouncing combo that soothes when nothing else works – a special "daddy dance" that becomes their signature move.

Whether it's a particular way of humming, a specific walking pattern around the house, or mastering the perfect swaddle, finding that special soothing technique gives dad a way to say, "I've got this" when mom needs a break.

Protect the Breastfeeding Space

One of the most supportive things a partner can do is run interference with well-meaning but overwhelming visitors. Becoming the gatekeeper, politely limiting visit times, and creating a judgment-free zone for breastfeeding makes a huge difference.

When relatives start with the "are you sure the baby's getting enough?" questions, a supportive partner can smoothly change the subject and later reassure mom that she's doing great. That kind of protective energy boosts a mother's confidence immensely.

Embrace the Skin-to-Skin Magic

There's something incredibly powerful about a father holding their baby against their chest. The little one melts into dad's warmth, nurturing a connection that deepens with every cuddle.

This isn't just beautiful to watch – it's science-backed bonding that helps regulate baby's temperature and heart rate while releasing those feel-good hormones for dad too. Plus, it gives mom's arms a much-needed break!

Step Up as the Household CEO

Nothing says "I support your breastfeeding journey" like a partner who makes sure everything else is running smoothly. Whether it's handling the grocery shopping, keeping up with laundry (those burp cloths multiply quickly!), or making sure mom's favorite nursing-friendly meals are prepped, these acts of service speak volumes.

Even something as simple as morning coffee duty can feel like the greatest act of love when handed to a mom after a long night of feeds.

Be the Emotional Anchor

Breastfeeding can be an emotional rollercoaster. There are days when a mother might feel more like a milk-truck than a person. Having a partner who checks in on mental health, celebrates the small wins, and offers reassurance during tough moments makes all the difference.

Sometimes support is as simple as saying, "You're doing an amazing job, babe" or "What can I help you with right now?" These moments of connection remind mom she's not alone on this journey.

Find Your Own Special Thing

"Daddy bath time" can become a special ritual each evening – playing music, making silly shampoo hairstyles, and having your own little party. These moments create something the baby looks forward to every day.

Whether it's bath time, a morning walk, reading time, or baby massage, having a special activity that's "dad's thing" creates beautiful bonding moments outside of feeding times.

Remember: It's Quality, Not Quantity

Dads sometimes worry they're missing out on bonding because they're not the ones breastfeeding. But the truth is, deeply engaged moments matter more than feeding time tallies. Some of the strongest dad-baby bonds come from fathers who might spend less time with their babies but are fully present when they're together.

The partnership approach to breastfeeding creates a richer experience for everyone involved. Not only does it help mothers breastfeed longer and more successfully, but it also gives partners and babies a beautiful foundation for their relationship.